Honestly happy for you …..but sad for me

hpneIn the midst of this loss it seemed like everyone around me was getting pregnant. And whist I was very happy for the mommies to be, I was also green with envy.

So when I was in the height of grief, I also had to plan and/or attend baby showers for my closest friends and colleagues. And although I gave it my all because I was genuinely happy for them, there were moments where I felt sad for me.

One thing I have however learnt is that we all need to know our limits. The grieving journey has its ups and downs. And although some instances one might feel unbothered by the pain and show up to baby events, sometimes you might not be able to bear it and opt to skip out … and that is ok!

Sometimes that’s the sacrifice you ought to make for your own mental health. This is where communication with your loved ones is key so that they know and understand where you are coming from.

‘When others get pregnant…. I want people to know that every pregnancy announcement is devastating. Not because you are not happy for them, but because you are sad for you’

Jennifer Brynn Jones