When are you going to have a baby?

As human beings we seem to be fascinated with the fertility prospects of others………

I am a late bloomer 🌷 well in society’s eyes 🥴. I only got married when I was 37 years old, so I am no stranger to annoying questions about my future🙄. BUT, the speed of the baby question shocked me 🤭, especially at a work environment. It used to hurt to think people haven’t considered I might in my little corner be going through hell.

The fact that I could be trying desperately to fall pregnant and or suffering a heartbreak of a pregnancy loss- and yet someone would ask such an incredibly personal question anyway, without any care in the world. Just because they think that it is what a woman in my position should be doing.

This was my truth……

Having to smile after every question and pretend as if everything was ok. Having to pull my big girl’s panties day in and day out, to face the same people who would ensure they remind me of what I was yearning to have. Having to excuse myself to the bathroom to compose myself so that I don’t break down in front of my colleagues, when someone thought it would be ok to compare my life with someone else’s who had just announced that they were expecting. If there is one thing that could come out of this blog is that we all learn to know our boundaries and limitations and stop asking personal questions. We do not know what people are going through in their everyday struggles. And some of the questions could be breaking us inside!